I can't go on pretending that things are fine between us. Look. It's not you, it's me. But I'm you, and you're me. So is it us? Let me explain...
I was a child, a friend came up to me explicitly to inform me of something an adult had said behind my back. The person in question was sweet, soft-spoken, and timid. It was a foreign concept to imagine that someone was capable of behaving in a different way than anything they'd portrayed in my presence (which falls under mind blindness). Adults were always the worst at this because children have less tact and if they didn't like you, you knew.
Something that was difficult for me to come to terms with is the fact that everyone has judgements. Although autistic people are the least judgmental people you'll ever meet, our biology still abides by nature. Judgement is conducive to our animal nature, while it contradicts our intrinsic need for connectivity nature. Autistic people often describe an inexplicable feeling of otherness. For myself, this feeling of otherness is paradoxically intertwined with a feeling of wholeness. I feel like every single person is an extension of myself, and vice-versa. This includes my loved ones, complete strangers, the people I feel less inclined to surround myself with, and even those whom I've had negative interactions with. If someone mistreats someone, it's as though they're harming themselves. I can't bring myself to hate anyone, even though I may distance myself from certain people. I know that every single person including myself behaves in accordance to their understanding, experiences, feelings, and ego.
Now that I've covered the need for connectivity, I have to bring up an opposing force needed for balance. The same things that have caused me so much grief growing up are the same things that make the world go round. Cliques, clubs, organizations, and last but not least, society. If people didn't make associations with some form of exclusivity, nothing would progress. Rejection is a part of life; otherwise we wouldn't be able to form musical bands, sports teams, specialty schools, governing bodies, and relationships for example. While we often interpret rejection as a bad thing, it simply means that something else was intended for us.
While I've accepted the fact that grouping is a necessary evil, I stand by my belief that we as a collective whole should accept that no one is below, or above them no matter their differences. It's been proven time and time again that what fulfills humans is having a sense of connectivity. By judging others, we go against our very nature. We're all connected in this whole called humanity, and our essence is the same. There's a problem. Who is it? Well, it's not you, it's me. But you're me, and I'm you. So it's us. If you look down on another, well congratulations. You played yourself.